Living in a big city for over 4 years, I have had to learn that I don’t have to be nice to everyone, especially those people who make me feel uncomfortable. I don’t have to pay attention to everyone who tries to say hello. I don’t have to respond if I don’t want to. These were lessons I had to learn by myself through trial and error. I am much tougher now than I was when I was 18 and I still have a lot of growing to do.